Because I Am Hot & Bored: A Survey
The AC is out at work today and I may be about to melt into a puddle. I am also bored with headline writing. I am taking a v. short break to post a v. short survey.
I do recognize that most of you will fail to respond to this survey in any form other than emailing me directly. I will take such failure as direct correlation to your level of bravery.
Genesis of said survey: A couple of weeks ago, sitting around an outside table at TABC, Taber asks, “What’s the worst thing you’ve ever said to someone you dated?”
While both of the boys present had quick and immediate answers, the two females present (myself included) were hard-pressed to come up with anything other than, “I can tell you the worst thing anyone ever said to me.”
So let’s have it. Worst thing said by or to you to someone you had been or were currently involved with.
I do recognize that most of you will fail to respond to this survey in any form other than emailing me directly. I will take such failure as direct correlation to your level of bravery.
Genesis of said survey: A couple of weeks ago, sitting around an outside table at TABC, Taber asks, “What’s the worst thing you’ve ever said to someone you dated?”
While both of the boys present had quick and immediate answers, the two females present (myself included) were hard-pressed to come up with anything other than, “I can tell you the worst thing anyone ever said to me.”
So let’s have it. Worst thing said by or to you to someone you had been or were currently involved with.
posted by pamela at 4:47 PM
13 Comments:
Worst said to me:
(I am crying my eyes out in front of God and anyone who can see us on my front porch in the middle of the afternoon with Beth holding my hand and brushing the hair out of my red, swollen eyes...)
Steven: "But I love you so much that it aches..."
Beth: "Babe...we're done.
Worst thing I said:
"I have an early meeting tomorrow, so..."
As the authors of He's Just Not That Into You point out: It doesn't matter if a guy has to be up before dawn, if you invite him in at the end of the night and he says no? He's just not that into you.
I'm going to go one step further (not that I have first hand knowledge/experience of any such thing in any recent past...): If, as a female, you have to invite him in? Yeah. He's just not that into you...
As the smartest woman that I've ever known once said to me, "People do, almost without fail, exactly what they want to do."
Use that as your control group and you're on the right track.
I quoted that smart woman just a couple of days ago. :) Thanks for the reminder.
Ooh, yes. "We need to talk" = never good. Along those same lines: "So..."
Or the ubiquitous, "...anyway..."
Worse thing said:
HMMM...I recall a certain guy in college that I absolutely adored. We had spent the whole week together working on a philanthropic event forced upon us by our respective fraternity/sorority and one night, we went to his room. So as we are making out, getting hot and heavy on the floor...this guy who I adored and who I though adored me blurted out: "I want to heat up your box."
Um...yeah. I started laughing, "Are you serious?" I asked. And then I left the room, sat on the stairs outside and cried.
It's right up there with, "I want to run my tongue around your clit and watch your legs quiver."--said on date #3 RIGHT after the very first kiss! Couth.
Note to men: Don't EVER use these words when trying to romance and/or get a woman in to bed...EVER.
BOX
CUNT
CLIT
FUCK
...they make us feel cheap and definitely NOT adored. lol Now...if that's the intention and we see it as a cheap event...all the power to the words. lol
Worse thing said:
HMMM...I think it was also sexually related and mid-sex...the guy told me it was his first time. And I said, "Holy shit! Why didn't you tell me that BEFORE we started?" He took it as an insult and i'm sure it kind of was...I wouldn't have wanted to be the taker...
Also told that same guy a few weeks later..."I'm just not into you like that." Broke his heart. :-(
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Carrie: Feeling sailor-y today, are we? :)
I suppose it's only fair that I paricipate.
Worst thing said to me. There are a handful to choose from. This one was pretty bad: "Sure, I liked you when I was drunk and in a bar, but in the light of day, I'm looking for something more."
Worst thing I've said to someone else... To set the scene: This was said to a guy I'd been trying to break up w/for some time but who seemed not to understand that we were broken up. He came back from being out on the road and showed up at my house to stay without asking me (b/c, you know, he thought we were still dating). I slept on the couch. The next day, trying to break up yet again:
Me: Did you not notice that I slept on the couch?
Him: I just thought you couldn't sleep.
Me: Right. Because you were in my bed.
I'm sure I've said worse but that's what comes to mind.
In college I dated this girl who for 45 minutes kept acting like she had to leave my place and get home (after dinner, drinks etc.) Eventually things took a turn (quite the charmer) and we ended up sleeping together. Afterwards we were laying there and I decided that the comment "didn't you have to leave like 45 minutes ago" would be appropriate. Of course I meant it was funny that her "important" plans got postponed but instead she took it as "get out". I think they call this foot-in-mouth humor? Not so much...
Wow... ouch. (no pun intended.) That's HORRIBLE!
That's like that beer (?) commercial where the girl says how much she likes wearing her ex's shirts b/c they're just so BIG and current b.f.'s shirts are so small...
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